My happiness

Say: "My happiness depends on me, so you're off the hook." And then demonstrate it. 

Be happy, no matter what they're doing. Practice feeling good, no matter what. 

And before you know it, you will not give anyone else responsibility for the way you feel -- and then, you'll love them all. Because the only reason you don't love them, is because you're using them as your excuse to not feel good.

One can not entrust their happiness to another person, or ask them to do so. FAIL example: "Hey! While you're going along and dealing with YOUR life, I expect you to provide my happiness as well."

  Taking responsibility for YOUR own feelings, no matter what they are, IS a biggie.